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What I’ve learned through infertility – Part 1
A child is a gift. Unmerited, undeserved, pure gift. When I was a little girl and told Santa what I wanted for Christmas, there was a decent chance I’d get it. But it sure as heck wasn’t a guarantee. A gift is determined solely by the giver and not the recipient. A gift is a…
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Marriage is a crucifixion
When the parish of St. Elizabeth Seton Catholic Church installed a new crucifix above the altar several years ago, there was a lot of controversy. “It’s too gory.” “It’s too bloody and violent.” “Kids shouldn’t see Jesus like that.” “It’s not pretty to look at.” I don’t completely disagree. The passion and death of our…
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Queen assumed into Heaven and Grandpa’s holy death
When I was little, I asked Grandpa what he thought of heaven. He said something like this: “Oh Lyssa, it will be beautiful with clear blue skies and sunshine, rainbows, tons of flowers of all kinds, birds in the air and butterflies too. It’s beautiful there!” Flash forward to August 2012 and I was grieved…
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God authors new life; we don’t.
I came across an Instagram post that bothered me to the core. The basic premise was this: Women with infertility, in general, are infertile because they are over-worked, over-stressed, under-eating, over-exercising, not fostering healthy relationships, not eating the right things, and not getting enough sleep. Women with infertility are in a state of utter distress…
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“Why don’t you do IVF?” Here’s why…
Have you ever been asked a loaded question that left you fumbling for the right way to answer? That’s how I feel every time someone innocently asks me, “Why don’t you just do IVF?” I get it. It seems like an obvious solution. And I understand full well why couples do choose to go down…
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You’re worth more than your motherhood.
In 2021, I attended a new women’s ministry at my church. After placing a name tag on my shirt, I was quickly approached by a woman who kindly introduced herself to me, and I did likewise. Then came the dreaded next question: “And how many children do you have?” My heart sank. “I don’t have…
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Motherhood transcends biology
It was a typical day in the dementia care facility. Soon after I punched in the key code and opened the door to the locked unit, the familiar funny smells of ‘old people’ wafted through the air. I recognized a couple of the wanderers and saw more than one confused face. I walked a little…
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The ‘Patient Trust’ Prayer
Did you ever come across something in your youth that stuck with you? Something that you knew would mean something down the road? A piece of advice from a wise grandparent or teacher? A song that spoke to your heart or a verse from the Scriptures that you latched onto? Something significant, a game-changer really.…
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The Meaning of Fruitful Fiat
Want to know why I chose to name my blog Fruitful Fiat? Well, here goes… Everyone is familiar with one of God’s earliest commands in the bible: “Be fruitful and multiply!” Easy enough, right? In fact, for some, this is so easy that it happens on accident! Not the case for me! So where does…
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Taking up my cross -Part III
Over two years had gone by since my endometriosis surgery and our “window of time” that we expected to conceive had passed with no sign of a positive pregnancy test. An ultrasound revealed something abnormal. That’s when we got the next blow. Dr. Delcoco suspected my endometriosis had returned. She referred us back to Dr.…
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Taking up my Cross- Part II
Jesus falls for the first time I will never forget when Dr. Delcoco told us she suspected I may have endometriosis. My heart dropped. Tears streamed down my face as Dr. Delcoco handed me a tissue. The cross of infertility began to feel especially heavy. Up to that point, I thought I had it under…
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Taking up my cross -Part I
“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for mine will find it.” -Mt 16:24-25 Deny myself? That doesn’t sound fun. Take up my cross? What cross? I’ve been nothing but blessed.…
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